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Friday, February 26, 2010

Feeling a little nervous & confused

As I sit at my desk on this Friday morning, I can't help but feel slightly nervous. I know it's probably silly & not worth it to feel this way but I can't help it. I'm nervous because I haven't "felt" pregnant the past few days. I don't feel like I look pregnant anymore. My "bump" keeps going up & down in size & for some reason, that worries me. All of these "what if" scenarios play through my mind. What if the baby stopped growing? What if the baby's heartbeat stopped? What if I had a miscarriage & didn't know it? I know, I know, I shouldn't be thinking about these things, but it's hard not to. This is the longest I have gone without seeing my doctor or my baby on that ultrasound machine (4 weeks) & I think that has been what is causing my worries & anxiety. Tuesday can't come quick enough.

All of these things I keep hearing about the NT scan & 1st trimester screening is what's causing my confusion. I'm on The Bump everyday & see all these posts about women who are getting the NT scan or screening & I have no idea if I'm supposed to get this done too!? I know the NT scan is not necessary, but I would like some peice of mind. I'm just confused. Did any of you have these things done? Or are you going to?

16 comments:

  1. I had a bloaty bump from 6-11 weeks and then nothing for my 12th week. And I felt no exhaustion, no nausea, nothing. I was worried too. But I had my ultrasound and baby was bouncing away in there. I'm 13w2d right now and I feel pregnant again. My bump is growing too. Hang in there! :) Give it a week or so!!

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  2. Hi, I stumbled upon your blog through some other pregnancy blogs. I remember hitting that "I don't feel pregnant" spot around 12 weeks too. I think most people do. Be glad...you are entering the 2nd trimester and it is pretty symptom free! Enjoy the ride for the next 12-14 weeks before the aches and pains of the third trimester set in. The bump during the first trimester is just bloat so it comes and goes from day to day. I know it can be scary, but try not to let it get to you. As far as the NT scan and the quad screen goes....if you want my 2 cents....I had it done and would NEVER do it again. It is very inaccuarte and can cause major anxiety. I had a false positive (we are pretty sure) come back for down syndrome. It told me my odds were 1:250. Not horrible odds, but not what you want to hear either. We went in for an advanced level II ultrasound with a maternal specialist and they saw no markers, the doc is confident we had "false" results, and changed my odds to 1:500. I am due in 3 weeks and have had to live with that in the back of my head this whole pregnancy. I decided not to have amnio because it seemed to risky to me and I would love my baby no matter what. If you would terminate a pregnancy over bad results, than the screening tests could be right for you. If you would not consider terminating, then the tests are pretty pointless for you. I don't mean to sound judgmental in any way, that is just my personal experience. Good luck!

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  3. First of all, I felt the same exact way you did when I was pregnant. When I wasn't sick I felt like I wasn't pg anymore and it scared me to death. I was so concerned, that every time I went to the doc I would be nearly shaking.
    My bump went all over the place in the early months also. Because its mostly bloat and you want it to keep growing but sometimes it actually goes down. Bummer.
    I completely understand all of your worries. I'm sorry your feeling this way. But just know that my prayers are with you and your sweet and tiny. Your past the first tri-mester basically. I mean this week you will be and that takes so many of the dangers of early pregnancy away. Try not to stress (I know easier said than done right=).
    As far as the tests go, I'm sure my doc did it and I didn't even know it. I remember him telling us at some point that the baby did not have down syndrome. I'm not sure if this was from that test or from blood work? I don't know. All I know is he HIGHLY advised us not to get the amnio test done. Amniocentesis is what it was called. I'm sure you know of this one. I guess it ups your chances of loosing the baby. So he said unless you absolutely have to, not to get that test. However, I know people who had to have that done and there babies turned out fine. I guess just don't do it for no reason.
    I hope you get to feeling less nervous. I can't wait to hear what the doc has to say. All good of course =) I'm praying for you sweetie, every day. I really do try to remember all my bloggy friends in my prayers. I know that prayer can change things and thats why I started my blog. So I just want to return the support and love I was givin. And look at my beautiful Miracle. God hears those prayers.

    Ok I'll leave you alone now. Sorry its so long.

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  4. I agree with everyone that posted! This is my second go around with pregnancy and once you hit your second trimester one day you wake up and you feel "normal" again. (If that's possible during pregnancy :) I think what you are feeling or not feeling is a good thing and enjoy it because before too long, you'll be feeling all those sore muscles and limbs and tiredness all again towards the end. But at the same time, you'll feel the awesome kicks from your baby everyday reminding you he/she is there! Hang in there sweetie!

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  5. I experienced the same thing. At the end of each day I would have a bump (really bloat) and would have a mild freak-out each morning because my "bump" was gone. I'm 20 weeks and it wasn't until recently that I felt pregnant all the time. As far as the tests, I had blood work done after my 16 week appointment. My doc said he wouldn't even do it before 15 weeks.

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  6. i think it's perfectly normal for you to feel concerned, you're already a mommy so the worrying has, rightfully so, begun! i didn't have all those tests done. i didn't even have an early u/s because i had already suffered two miscarriages before ds and, though i had an early u/s with lo #2, and everything was ok, we still lost him/her well into the 2nd trimester :( by the time i was preg with lo #3 (my ds), we prayed and prayed and really trusted in God fully. we didn't do special tests because whatever the results, we wouldn't have terminated. i'm not trying to be all preachy, definitely nms, but by that point, i guess, i felt that until i heard my lo cry, nothing would ever give me enough peace to stop worrying, kwim? try to be positive and not to focus on the what-ifs, hard as i know it is.

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  7. I felt nervous through my whole pregnancy & still feel nervous as a mom sometimes & I don't ever think that will change.....I think as a mom you will worry about your little boy or gorl forever. I know that it is hard but I am sure that everything is fine with your little one :)

    As far as the tests go; we didn't do them but that was just us. You guys just need to talk & decide what is best for you!!

    Good Luck, stay strong & I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers......I will remind you about this when you are larger than life & over being pregnant....hahahahaha

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  8. It hard to feel pregnant so early on in the pregnancy because you do feel the baby move...once you feel it move, thats when it truely sets in and hits you that your going to be a mommy and your husband is going to be a daddy. The look of pregnancy in the first trimester is usually caused mostly by bloating, so it will flexuate. You would definately know if you miscarried, so try not to stress over that...your baby is most likely healthy and happy making your little belly a home for the next (I cant remember exactly how far along you are) 7 months or so. Its hard not to think the what if's when its your whole world your thinking about...and all us women following your story understand. Just relax and wait for whats next. Hopefully your next ultrasound is soon so you can see your little love bug again *wink*.

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  9. Oh, (pregnancy brain made me completely forget) no I didnt have those tests you described done...never heard of it. The only "scan" I had done was at 19 weeks, called the Anantomy Scan, where they take measurments and count fingers and toes, check the spine and brain. I have been pretty good at keeping my blogspot updated with the pregnancy and appoinments if you want to check it out.
    http://www.lisajeangriswold.blogspot.com

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  10. i just came across your blog and can totally relate with your worries. i'm pregnant with my 2nd..and with our first we didn't have the test done...but with our 2nd we did only because i wanted to see the ultrasound not because we were worried about a ds baby..we would love that baby just the same! but the baby ended up being too tiny to do it anyways! don't worry about being nervous that is sooo natural.. just have to trust in god during this time! which is a hard thing for me because i like to be in control. hehe. i'm 16 weeks right now...the day the baby is born i'll start worrying even more i'm sure. hehe.

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  11. very natural to have those thoughts. Once you go to your appointment you will feel so much better. Your body is probably getting ready to go through a growth spurt.

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  12. I didnt feel pregnant until a few months inand didnt look pregnant until 6 or 7 months in. Dont worry! Also stay away from the bump! It will make you a worrying mess!

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  13. I feel exactly the same way!! I'm glad I'm not the only one, and hearing others responses makes me feel better too.

    At my last appt. at 10 weeks, my doctor brought up the idea of having the NT scan and asked if we wanted it done. We said yes, so she gave me the paperwork to schedule the blood test, and referred me to a perinatologist to have the scan done. I'm not having it done until next Friday though, and I'll be 13 weeks 4 days, so pretty late! You still have time to get one done too, if you want!

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  14. I found your blog through a friend - so sorry for being some random person commenting!

    First, it's completely normal to not feel pregnant at this stage. I didn't actually feel pregnant until about 18 weeks - once I could feel the baby and I actually started to show some.

    And, as far as all of the screening tests, the doctor will ask you at the appropriate visits, which tests you would like done. Personally, my husband and I chose not to have any of them done, because it wouldn't have made a difference in our decision to have our baby. And, a "bad" test result didn't always mean something was actually wrong. It's totally up to you - but just thought I'd give you another way to look at things.

    I know how hard it is, but just try to remember that the baby is in God's hands - not yours. As long as you are doing everything you can to provide a good place for the baby to grow, just try your best not to worry about the "what ifs".

    Happy thoughts! :)

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  15. yep perfectly normal to feel all that stuff!
    this is our baby #5 and i skip the tri screen test (you can ur dr's just don't tell you) i mean why put yourself through the what if's or a false positive *which happens often*....
    talking about your fears is what has always helped me in the past! it's hard not having a window inside our belly on a daily basis huh?!! :o)

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  16. hey lovie- somehow i missed this post! i know exactly how you're feeling (about not feeling pg anymore!) around 10 weeks or so was when i went on Amazon.com and purchased a relatively inexpensive dopplar (and i've been using it almost every night since!) it works great and with the US jelly, was only about 60 bucks. I would definitely recommend! if for nothing else, than to put your mind at ease! And as for the Sequential/Genetic Screen.. I went ahead and did it. Although the results wouldn't change the way we carried the pregnancy, I looked at it as another chance to get to see our bean on ultrasound! not sure if it's the same test, but it was an US/Bloodwork before 12 or 14 weeks and then a second set of blood work around 18-19 weeks. I'm actually due for my labs this week! Again, it's definitely a personal choice- but good luck thinking it through! :) <3

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